As we approach the “darkest time” of the year, this is a great time to go deep within our orgasmic authentic selves. Truly taking the time to inquire about, What is my most orgasmically inspired vision for my life. The vision that says fuck yes on all levels. Also balancing this with the other side, “What aspects of my sexuality are still in the shadow/dark/“in the closet?” The parts of you that you don’t even want to light a candle next to because it’s too scary to see, acknowledge and feel?

For me, I would say that my most inspired orgasmic vision is to create a family.

During the winter I find myself more challenged to be motivated, maybe it’s because I’m at the end of getting over a cold and it’s just that kind of seasonal time. Regardless of my fabulous excuses, I must find something to pull myself through this “dark” time, the darkest hour before dawn breaks. As mentioned before in previous moon love letters, the darkest time of the year is a literal and metaphorical expression. Meaning there’s less light in the day and the nights are getting longer as we get closer to the Winter Solstice.

These last few days, it’s been important to me to go deeper into what I really really want in this life. It’s quite vulnerable to share my desires for family and I’m totally ok with it too because THIS IS what I feel I want more than anything and it’s time to celebrate my desires on all levels. What keeps me from sharing this is the fear that it won’t happen in this lifetime! As I let go of the fear attached to my story, I begin to see all the ways I can transform my life now to prepare myself for this manifestation.

The other side of excitement is suppression, “Where is my sexuality in the shadow? What aspect of my sexuality is desiring to come into the light? One of the things that comes up is creating a sex positive conscious community in Mexico where I live. It’s been draining to not have this AND not creating this is one of the ways I’m allowing myself to play small.

This Saturday I’ll be teaching a Tantra Playshop and then at the end of the year, I’ll be offering my first Spanish Tantra Yoga class to the locals in Sayulita, Mexico.

What continues to keep me expressing my sexuality in a place like Mexico where sexuality is super suppressed and sometimes wearing your clothes a certain way means an invitation for sex; is beginning to see sexuality as a neutral energy. Yes, I can tell you that from personal experience some people believe that my choice of clothes is a non verbal invitation for sex. I had to fire my last water delivery guy because of an inappropriate comment he made in my home… even worst the day after I shared my “Me too” stats!!

When you see sexuality as a neutral energy, we instantly remove and release taboos and all inherited social and or cultural beliefs that keep the human spirit evolving into orgasmic consciousness. Sex and sexual energy is as natural as a living and breathing tree, it’s part of nature. The pure energy of sexuality is natural and sometimes referred to as life force energy. One wouldn’t call a tree a “slutty” tree or a “nun” tree. We would just call the tree an avocado or Plumeria tree. The more we’re able to see our sexuality as a neutral energy, the more space for growth and transformation can be created which leads to a more balanced life and world. 
In my interview with Wes who is a dear friend and colleague, I share share my sexual awakening story including my first sexual experiences and some of the events that lead to my empowerment journey. I also discuss the importance of seeing our sexuality from a neutral place in order to create space for growth and transformative experiences and the valuable power of saying NO!

To listen to the interview click here:

I hope you enjoy this interview! Please share this moon love letter to someone who could use neutral and orgasmic inspiration! xoxo

On a side note, I am switching my email marketing software so if you receive an email by accident during my “testing” period, please excuse me in advance. Not to mention it is Mercury Retrograde and communication and technology during the time tends to lag or not run as efficient.

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iX-CheL Sandivel is an intimacy artist and transformational coach. She is living in exotic tropical paradise where she leads Tantra retreat intensives. A Source Tantra Yoga Associate & Advanced Certified Tantra Educator, she’s the creatrix of “Sensual Surrender PlayShop for Women” where women learn to celebrate their creative life force energy and to play a matriarchal and sexy role at the “Domme Knight Masquerade.”

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