Meow Meow beloved Happy Full Moon in Cancer! <3!

One of my most favorite blisses is to tantrically dominate powerful, secure, and confident leaders….

What will you create on this Full Moon to be more “at home” (Cancer quality) with your sexuality?

This last weekend I got booked to perform a tantric domination ritual show for not just one but 3 gorgeous Canadians in a popular beach town called Sayulita. I was not expecting to call in my high priestess archetype at a private villa. Primarily because in the last few months, I’ve been creating and operating from my mother archetype, giving birth to my Con Permiso music video. I got booked/caught off guard in the best way possible. Thank goddessssss!!!

Another reason I felt like I was caught off guard is because I can easily become disconnected from this powerful and natural energy within me. The truth is I conditionally live in a patriarchal world in which my feminine voice isn’t the most welcomed, nurtured and supported. This is why I have a daily practice in order to sustain and strengthen these qualities within me. In fact today, I got interviewed about the importance of having a daily sexual spiritual practice which I will be sharing the interview when it comes out! Also, particularly as a cancerian woman, my environment/home is everything and it’s so easy to unconsciously, whether I’m aware of it or not, become my environment.

Somehow spirit has a way of supporting me through a difficult time, healing from a heart transition and gifted me the opportunity to perform an initiation. As I unwind from this personal love and claim my sovereignty, I am reclaiming aspects within me that I need for my own evolution and that also empowers others too.

I find that men in their power who exercise a lot of control such as CEOs for instance, love and respect this dominant, feminine and matriarchal energy. It balances their inner masculine polarity that they’re constantly using to perform from a dominating place of authoritative power. When they see me for a session they give up their control. Even though they consciously give up their power in this case to me, their high priestess muse, they’re still in control. However, they get to safely surrender and be submissive to an energy that feels like home too. This beautiful journey temporarily becomes a ritual of balance through divine feminine presence and empowerment. Total priestess bliss for me! They often say they so need more of this energy in their lives.

I have clients from Wall Street who come just to be tantrically dominated by me. They deal with so much patriarchal intensity that it feels so good, peaceful and relaxing to be submissive to their high priestess muse. They usually admit this within the first moments of talking to me that they need to give up control and usually asap like “When Are You Free Next Asap.” They immediately recognize a part within them that says yes, I can surrender to her, I can let go with her, and for some reason I feel safe with her.

It’s so much fun for me to create the grounding rules of how and when they breathe so that they can transcend to new places of consciousness within themselves. It’s a total theatrical performance of merging tantric breathing rituals and improvisation! I love it so much! <3!

Breath is everything and sometimes a woman in her sexual feminine power and essence as a high priestess is a breath of fresh air that the world so desperately needs.


I also find that men who struggle with their sense of power and authentic expression tend to also struggle with allowing women to dominate them as their high priestess muse. They often feel they need to control her instead of surrendering to her feminine restorative love and wisdom. At the end of the day we can only control ourselves so how can we consciously control/create more balance in our ecstatic body temples on this Full Moon in Cancer?

On a personal and intimate note, a breath of fresh of air for me this last weekend was experiencing two men being super upfront with me in the most respectful and spontaneous way. The gentlemen who booked me was like, “I want you to have my children” and his best friend followed him with, “And I want to be the godfather.” I couldn’t help but laugh because in many ways this was exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve been wanting to be a mother for the last 7 years but I know I have to wait for the right moment. I just loved how clear and committed these men were and the impact on me which was, “Yes, all that you want and desire is so here and now. You just have to honor exactly what your soul needs.” The truth is even though these guys were stunning in so many ways, I’m still processing a relationship and need some solo time to learn and heal from that relationship.

Being up front is so healing when it comes to intimacy. I love sharing these communication and experiential tools in my private sessions and playshops. Below you can find my tentative tour dates for those interested in being more at home with your sexuality through my work in person. You can also start working with me today by visiting

By the end of the night I was getting massaged by four strong, gentle and intuitive hands. This is all they wanted to do and all I wanted to experience. This is the power of surrendering to our true nature and granting ourselves the full permission to just be….

Con Permiso,

iX-Chel Sandivel

Tentative 2017 Tour Dates

Los Angeles June

Italy July 3rd-7th

Paris July 8th-10th

Boston July 11th-20th

Santa Cruz July 28th-31st

Los Angeles August 4th-7th

iX-CheL Sandivel is an intimacy artist and transformational coach. She is living in exotic tropical paradise where she leads Tantra retreat intensives. She’s qualified by the oldest school of tantra in the west, as a Source Tantra Yoga Associate & certified Advanced Tantra Educator. She’s most known for her “Sensual Surrender Play Shop for Women” where women learn to embrace their creative life force energy, and to play a dominant role at the “Dakini Domme Knight Masquerade.”  Follow iX-Chel on Instagram at @ixchel_sandivel

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